Testimonials

“After many arguments and betrayal my partner and I thought our five year relationship was over. We had lost respect for each other and most of all we no longer trusted each other.

In one last attempt to save our relationship we decided to seek help from a couple counsellor. We were both nervous and did not know what to expect.

Within minutes of our first session with Liz we both felt at ease and felt comfortable discussing all aspects of our relationship. Liz helped us understand each other and the reasons why we behaved in certain ways. My partner and I now trust each other and are now looking to get married. Thank you Liz.”

“I find Liz very approachable and I feel I can relax and be honest about my feelings. She is not biased towards either partner (in our marriage counselling) and listens intently, as well as gently guides us in the right direction with different perspectives and excercises. We both feel it is helping us.

I personally feel comfortable and at ease to voice my feelings in our sessions and do not feel like I am being judged at all.”

“My husband and I were really struggling with our relationship. The excitement and fun of a new relationship had gone leaving us feeling in a rut and arguing all the time. Counselling with Liz has really helped as it has given us the time and space to discuss and explore our problems in a way that was not possible on our own.

We have more understanding of how we communicate with each other. We have gained a valuable insight into the dynamics of our relationship allowing us to change or accept our problems.

Liz is friendly, approachable and understanding. She works in an impartial and non-judgemental way, which has made the process more comfortable and enjoyable. I am so pleased that we took the brave step to go to counselling in the first place, as we now feel ready and prepared to start the next phase of our relationship.”

“My decision to seek counselling came out of having years of bashing my head against a very stubborn, nasty brick wall in the shape of a verbally abusive husband who was a control freak and had over almost 20 years taken away just about every ounce of self-respect and self-worth I'd ever had.

I felt I had tried everything to reason with him and to try to make him understand how destructive his behaviour was to me and our relationship. I was hanging onto 'me' by my fingertips and as every week went by I was morphing into something insignificant in order to try to appease and placate the unappeasable! I was losing myself in the most insidious and gradual way but thank God I realised before it was absolutely too late and I found Liz.

From the very outset Liz wasn't judgemental of me and allowed me to talk, cry, wallow in self pity and be pathetic in every conceivable way you can imagine. At the same time she was, in a very quiet measured way, helping me to find myself again and realise I deserved better from life, I did deserve respect, that my wishes mattered, that I didn't have unreasonable expectations of a marriage and I could get out of a very miserable life. I didn't have to spend the rest of my life in isolation from my friends and family because of my antisocial, aggressive husband.

Liz gave me books and articles to read and work through giving me the opportunity to recognise the symptoms of my own situation and what they meant to me as an individual. I needed that as I'm the kind of person who has to come to decisions on my own and I would have resented someone who pushed me one way or the other. It took time but I got there in the end.

I finally realised 'I am worth it'!

There was a time towards the end of my sessions with Liz when I was almost frightened of leaving her counselling in case things went wrong again! However, I realised that the learning I'd had with Liz had given me the personal development I needed to know that I can ask for things I need, I can speak openly and honestly and if the relationship is right I will be listened to. A healthy relationship's like that you know!

So, I have to say a big thank you to Liz because I think without her help at a time when I was falling apart I would probably be that little grey insignificant woman with no friends or social life instead of the very happy, socially active lady I am today.”

“After 11 months of counselling, a journey of self discovery and unpicking my past, along with couples counselling too, Liz saved my marriage. I am now a happier person, more patient, tolerant, less angry with the world and definitely in a much better place emotionally than I was or thought I could ever be.

I never thought my marriage could be saved, but with hard work and homework! it has been. My husband said to me that our relationship now, is better than it has ever been in our 8 years together and he freely admits that it is down to me.

Initially I did not want to have counselling, the idea of speaking to a stranger about your private business is not something I was raised to do, but after the past 11 months, I would not hesitate in returning to Liz if I thought I was running off the tracks a little and needed a nudge in the right direction.”

“We came to see Liz after going through a very hard time in our relationship where we were trying to get our balance back as equal partners. Despite having had a very strong relationship for 10 years, we found ourselves having severe communications issues which was creating a great deal of bad feeling and unhappiness between us.

We really thought we'd reached the end of the road and couldn't work out how to move forward together. Liz gave us the space and neutral territory that we needed to heal. She helped us to both look at how we were feeling and why, and helped us to understand the reactions that we were causing in one another.

She also taught us some invaluable communications tools that we still call upon today. Liz enabled us to find a new place to go forward from. We are now really happy together again and awaiting the birth of our first child.

I truly believe that Liz saved us, and I'd recommend anyone in our situation to give up their preconceived notions of 'therapy' and come with an open mind.”

“I began counselling with Liz in hope to expose any positives in the dreadfully bitter relaionship I was about to re-embark upon. But also, in desperation of sorting out the emotional twisted mess I was riddled with. It has ended destroying the closeness of two families over 4 generations, harmony of our home villagers and has soiled wonderful memories of our up-bringings in ideallic countrysides.

Although I'd had counselling before in my life, and have some training in it and used it in my work, I was grasping for someone to nudge me into reality. Liz rewarded me for trusting myself, instilled faith in my ability to accept my doubts...of which there were countless. She saw the pain in my eyes, she tuned-into my breaking heart. In our 'couple' sessions she never missed a blink.

My ex found Liz, this is the last truly great favour he did for me. After being involved for too long with a cruel family, Liz gave me hope that I would survive it, but without questioning my efforts to reinstate the beauty my ex and I had once had together. I felt he had not protected 'us' from the cruelty and deceipt of his mother, he'd been fobbing me off all the way. This left me with so much resentment I didn't know how to function with him any more.

Liz taught me how to deal with my deep set anger, she embraced it when I off-loaded this in session. She praised me for not doing so out of session. She taught him, albeit temporarily, how to accept this from me. I'd never felt so 'accepted', or so comfortable to expose my deepest darkest feelings and thoughts. Within 8 wks, he returned to being his true self, and felt that he was wasting money with Liz's sessions...despite them helping me enourmously, his lies were made public, he became nasty once more.

Liz provided a safe environment in which for me to finish with him. It was a relief that she offered me recovery time and support too. I was so self-hating that I'd even tried with him again. She trusted that I knew myself, and embraced that. But she also stopped me being too self-critical and on 'self-distruct' mode! Liz was also my sanity-saver when I was over-whelmed with panic and disgust after an 'encounter' with his mother months after our ending. Liz endlessly encouraged me to not regret the trying...this was eating at me, making me ill.

The books I/we (with my ex) read and the exercises I, and we, had taken part in were all reminders of who I was before I was lost in my anger-pit. They reminded me of my personality traits, life-style choices, friendship groups/types I held close...those reminders came when I needed them most. Without much discussion between us, it high-lighted the differences in our committment to our relationship. Then, by giving me a book to read, Liz found a 'label' I could pin on him....he's a true narcisist. This gave me endless precious moments of 'oh blimey, yes that's him allover!', and explanations of why I reacted to him the way I did. It gave me the key back to my sanity and belief in myself.

Although I have created abrupt closure with him, I still have immense hatred for him for the damage he allowed to be caused to my mother (by his), and for the way that family continues to deceive so many. I have the power to distance myself from their 'web.' I would not have done this without Liz's continued support in breaking past patterns and associated responses to that scenario, and help to focus on the future and 'me.' I still have to live with the fact that I chose to throw away my last couple of years of 'healthy' child-bearing possibilities on him.

As it had been discussed on our beginnings, I will never be able to forgive myself or him for this. Liz has provided me with the tools to make the most of my second passion, and reachable dream of travel. I'm sure to keep her number handy!

Thank you, thank you so very, very much, Liz!”

“I had counselling with Liz for about 6 months, after struggling to move on from the ending of a relationship by my then girlfriend. I was recommended to Liz by a friend, who said she was amazing. I was a little nervous as I had never had counselling before. I'd never felt that low enough to consider that I needed some help. I was never lower.

Liz was absolutely wonderful and she has helped me immensely. She is intuitive, insightful, friendly and is a brilliant listener. Liz got the balance just right when it came to listening and responding to my thoughts and feelings, and always gave me considered, thoughtful and thought provoking ideas. I won't say answers as she has a lovely, kind way of provoking thoughts in yourself, about your actions, feelings and the reasons for them.

And there are always reasons for behaviours. It has made me much more self aware, which is liberating. I've had a few months break from counselling to work on myself regarding confidence, and to take time to make some decisions. Then I will see Liz again to revise my journey and where I'm at now. I'm still not totally over my ex, but feel a lot more positive, reflective and accepting of everything from having had counselling with Liz.

All my life, I will look back on this counselling and be thankful to Liz for enabling me to turn a corner, start to heal and look forward. It's important she knows that she has given me that wonderful gift, as I am sure she has for many others. Thank you Liz.”

“I first started seeing Liz in 2009 after being recommended to her by a friend who had been to see her for relationship counselling. I can remember the first contact I had with Liz being a phone conversation which I sobbed through but I can also remember how relieved I felt after making that first contact because I knew it was the first step in my journey to process lots of events that life had given me. Liz immediately made me feel at ease, even though I was very emotional, by listening to me and not judging me.

I initially went to see Liz because I had just finished with a guy who was emotionally very abusive, manipulative and also a compulsive liar. The fall out from ending the relationship had left me with no self esteem, no self confidence and a high level of distrust when dealing with men, and forming a new relationship filled me with dread. I did however realise that at 38 I still had so much of life to experience and so much to give but also that I needed time out from relationships for my own personal growth. On top of this failed relationship I also had the grief from losing my husband suddenly in 2007 still to deal with.

Liz gently guided me week by week to firstly realise that my recent failed relationship was not my fault, that I did deserve to have a full and healthy relationship with the right person and that I needed to work on my own self esteem and self confidence to achieve where I wanted to be in life. Over many months I shed lots of tears not only from being very hurt and disappointed but also through anger that I had allowed myself to be treated in such a diabolical way. A defining moment in this process for me was when Liz encouraged and motivated me about my decision to have my first ever single holiday. The result was a solo trip to Las Vegas which I found so empowering and it certainly moved my self esteem and self confidence in the right direction.

Through the many months that followed Liz also helped me find the courage, again with her constant support and guidance, to explore my feelings and emotions about losing my husband. I can remember the first time that Liz asked me to recall the events that had happened. I couldn't answer; I thought if I opened my mouth I would fall apart completely. At the time this scared me so much I'm sure the colour drained from my face! But as I have discussed with Liz since I knew that I had to face these events to be able to move on in my own life. Liz's support during this part of my journey was strong and unwavering. Again gently guiding me session after session to shed the tears but reminding me to smile at the happy times I had shared with him, which eased the pain of the tragedy of his loss. I still miss my husband very much but 5 years on I am now at peace with his loss and this most certainly has been down to my sessions with Liz.

Over the 2 years that I have visited Liz I have also explored other relationships in my life and whether they are right for me any more like the 'toxic' friend, relative or work colleague. Those relationships that have knocked my self esteem and confidence in the past I have now distanced myself from without feeling guilty. My sessions with Liz have certainly given me the confidence I felt I needed to choose who I truly wanted in my life.

Liz has also helped me through my sessions with her and various books that she has asked me to read to start trusting men again. I am now very happily living with my new partner and I can honestly say that we have a very honest balanced healthy relationship which at one point in my life I thought would never be possible for me to have.

Liz has always created a very safe environment for me to able to open my heart and mind completely so that I can voice my thoughts, emotions and fears without judgement. She has given me consistent support that I have always taken out of my sessions with me. In my sessions with Liz she has guided me to make the choices that are best for me, passed relevant books for me to take home which I have learnt from and has helped me to develop valuable life skills that I can use every day. I would most certainly recommend Liz without hesitation to anyone.”