Bereavement Counselling
Leamington Spa, Warwickshire

Grief and how we respond to it differs based on who we are, whom we have lost and how much our day to day life is altered. It is unique in its impact, course and meaning to each of us. Our immediate response following a death is probably shock, numbness and a sense of disbelief.

In the months after, however, this numbness turns to intense feelings of separation, pain and yearning. Psychiatrist Beverly Raphael describes this phase in the following way:

“The absence of the dead or missing person is every where palpable. The home and familiar environs seem full of painful reminders. Grief breaks over the bereaved in waves of distress. There is intense yearning, pining and longing for the one who has died or is no longer present in our lives. The bereaved feels empty inside as though torn apart.”

Grief Chart

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During the counselling we will explore: 'Letting Go' Rituals can help:

I often recommend the book Healing Your Grieving Heart- 100 Practical Ideas by Alan D Wolfelt which many clients have found enlightening.

Grief is often described as the 'absence of presence' You may feel totally overwhelmed, that you cannot deal with the loss and a heightened distress with focusing on the loss. We will work towards you having the capacity to (Machin 2001):

In time you will be able to have and cherish the good memories of the person you have lost and look back with love, warmth and affection. It may take many months to face the loss and its important to accept that its normal to experience guilt, anger, denial, sadness or emptiness. There is a big taboo talking about death so I acknowledge that its a brave decision to come for counselling where your pain is confronted but it can help you reach a place where you are able to move on.

Eye to Eye Counselling, Willes Terrace, Leamington Spa, Warwickshire, CV31 1DL
07717 297 066
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