Counselling for Anger Management
Leamington Spa, Warwickshire

We all feel angry at times but it can be a real problem and impact on others when its unhealthy and turns to aggression or rage. When anger gets distorted there is no positive outcome.

Anger is an expression of emotion, can be subtle and is in the here and now. Rage is a reaction borne of self at risk, unmediated by rational processes, unpredictable, a culmination of appeasing and resentments, and can be dangerous and physical. Rage is often seen as a defence mechanism when we feel that we have been unfairly treated or disrespected, or that others have broken or fallen short of our rules, standards or expectations.

There is a big difference between aggressive and assertive behaviour:

Aggression involves: Assertive Behaviour is:

So anger is a normal reaction and emotion and can be helpful as it motivates us to do something to right an injustice. If we think that someone has misjudged us or disagreed this stimulates the body's adrenaline response which helps us to cope with either fighting or running away ' fight or flight response ' and we may therefore respond to these thoughts and feelings by acting in threatening or aggressive ways.

After an angry outburst you may think critically of yourself and your actions leading to guilt and shame, so you need to try and have an understanding of your triggers and what ' lights the fuse ' which will help you to work at making positive changes to reduce your anger and deal with situations in a different way.

Anger Chart

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What to do when you feel angry: (Carol Vivyan –


It can help to:

Walk away and take some time out.

Ask yourself the following questions:

Finally you could try and visualise yourself dealing with the situation in a calm and considered manner which is non aggressive but assertive thus respecting the rights and opinions of others. It can be really useful to keep an Anger Diary and Thought Record Sheets to monitor your triggers, bodily sensations, unhelpful thoughts and feelings and then look to finding alternative more balanced ones.

Whilst looking at your own anger its also important to try and make sense of your past experiences to see how they are impacting on the present. We will explore how anger was expressed in your family, who showed the anger and to whom, what were the effects on the giver and receiver and what happened subsequently.

This will enable you to gain an understanding of how all these things have affected your responses to situations and your relationships in the here and now. Through this process I want you to be able to manage your anger or rage in a healthier way with a better outcome for yourself and all others involved.

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